Developing and Using Attachment Figures in Attachment Wounding

Problems Communicating Between/Connecting Parts Across the Lifespan
The AIP Model and Attachment Wounding
Judgements of the Child State in the “Adaptive Self”
When the Right Now Selves Isn’t Healthy Enough
The Whale Metaphor and Attachment Wounding
Attachment Wounds “Sound” Small, but they are Existentially Awful
Existential Loneliness
Attachment Figures are for the Child State in the Memory
Attachment Resources as a Very Powerful Pair of Scissors to Disconnect from the Whale
Creating an Attachment Resource
Client Obstacles to Creating an Attachment Resource
Putting the Attachment Figure in the Neighborhood
Attachment Figures are Not Identical to Actual People in Childhood
Borrowing Qualities
Keeping Difficult Stuff Out
Deciding on a Relational Slot
Adding Qualities to the Attachment Figures: Food, Presence, Nurture, Reading, Attending, Protection, Guidance
Expect that Grief May Appear When You Imagine Getting What Didn’t Happen
Using the Somatic Memory of Rocking One of Your Own Children or Grandchildren
Leveraging the Capacity to Imagine
Naming the Attachment Figure
Avoiding Relational Slots that are the Same Slot as an Abuser
How to Use an Attachment Resource Between Sessions
This is a Resource for Living, Not Just in Session
Assessing for Attachment Wounding
When You Can and Can’t Borrow Qualities from a Deceased Person

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