- Problems Communicating Between/Connecting Parts Across the Lifespan
- The AIP Model and Attachment Wounding
- Judgements of the Child State in the “Adaptive Self”
- When the Right Now Selves Isn’t Healthy Enough
- The Whale Metaphor and Attachment Wounding
- Attachment Wounds “Sound” Small, but they are Existentially Awful
- Existential Loneliness
- Attachment Figures are for the Child State in the Memory
- Attachment Resources as a Very Powerful Pair of Scissors to Disconnect from the Whale
- Creating an Attachment Resource
- Client Obstacles to Creating an Attachment Resource
- Putting the Attachment Figure in the Neighborhood
- Attachment Figures are Not Identical to Actual People in Childhood
- Borrowing Qualities
- Keeping Difficult Stuff Out
- Deciding on a Relational Slot
- Adding Qualities to the Attachment Figures: Food, Presence, Nurture, Reading, Attending, Protection, Guidance
- Expect that Grief May Appear When You Imagine Getting What Didn’t Happen
- Using the Somatic Memory of Rocking One of Your Own Children or Grandchildren
- Leveraging the Capacity to Imagine
- Naming the Attachment Figure
- Avoiding Relational Slots that are the Same Slot as an Abuser
- How to Use an Attachment Resource Between Sessions
- This is a Resource for Living, Not Just in Session
- Assessing for Attachment Wounding
- When You Can and Can’t Borrow Qualities from a Deceased Person
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