Are You Trying to Put Your EMDR/Mindfulness Clients Through a Machine?

A child toy metaphor for understanding how to approach both EMDR and mindfulness more sensibly.

“Clients are having trouble because they don’t match what you have in your head for what mindfulness needs to be.” “What is it that this difficulty is communicating about this client’s nervous system… I think that’s how we do EMDR well with clients with complex trauma and that’s how we teach mindfulness well with clients with complex trauma.” “When clients struggle, it is not failure, it is information about this client’s nervous system.”

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Understanding Where the Magic Is (And Isn’t) in EMDR Therapy

Many new EMDR therapists misunderstand where the magic is in EMDR Therapy.  Trainings and training practicum experiences often send the impression that simply following the script is likely to result in memory resolution with the vast majority of clients.  EMDR can be seen as a kind of magic wand that allows us to go up to almost any person and “dink” their memory.  Some trainees may be left with the impression that most of the magic in EMDR Therapy is in the bilateral alone.  While this is a key part, I describe it elsewhere as one of the three wheels of the EMDR tricycle.  It takes all three wheels.  Otherwise drummers would be the healthiest people on the planet.  And, they are not.

EMDR Therapy is a combination of activation, noticing, and left-right stimulation, but what is happening in EMDR is perfectly described in the Adaptive Information Processing model.  This combination of elements helps connect old stuck information into right-now existing adaptive information… if you have enough of it.  And Shapiro is very clear that if you do not have enough of the needed adaptive information for the target that you are connected to, there is nothing in the Eight-Phase Protocol that is going to generate the missing information.  I have used the metaphor of a boat fishing in an ocean.  The boat is the needed adaptive information and the fish you are hooked onto is the memory.  You can’t land a bigger fish than your boat.  You don’t simply get a bigger boat because you are hooked to a big fish.  You have the boat you launched with today.

Again, the magic of EMDR Therapy is that you can metabolize almost any old stuck information into existing adaptive information and we do this by using the Eight-Phase Protocol.  Inside that understanding contains the logic and the worldview to account for when this therapy doesn’t work.  Many of the episodes in this podcast focus on this core understanding of the Adaptive Information Processing model.  It explains almost everything beautiful in working with clients who have adaptive information the size of a cruise ship and almost everything challenging in working with clients whose adaptive information is the size of a leaky intertube.  This understanding explains why parts work is an important element in what we do as trauma therapists.  It explains why we need to support adaptive information about what it means to have been born human.  And, why our resources need to involve more than a few core mindfulness skills when working with clients with pervasively traumatized nervous systems.  This understanding is the foundation, I think, to doing EMDR Therapy really well with clients with complex trauma—who have been saturated with the tasks of surviving, rather than bumping against the world and learning who they are, what they’re worth, and how they deserve to be treated.

When Good Resources Go Bad

  • Calm Place
    • Why We Don’t Encourage Other People in Calm/Safe Place
    • When Calm Place Without Someone Specific is Triggering
    • The Problems of Trying to “Borrow Good Memories from a Bad Developmental Era”
    • Calm Place Will Go Bad… And When It Does…
  • Some Completely Expected Reasons Why Resourcing May Go Bad
  • Resources Going Bad Are Rarely the Therapist “Fault”
  • Container as a Powerful Resource for Working with Complex Trauma
  • The Importance of Visualizing or Drawing from Somatic Memory
    • Drive Through Bank Teller as Helpful and Accessible Container
    • Building the Container Larger and Stronger than Needed
    • Photoshop Metaphor for Container
    • Don’t Test the Container with Real Trauma Containered in the Limbic Brain

Intro to “Dip Your Toe In” Metaphor

Dip Your Toe In Metaphor

  • Understanding Traumatized Nervous Systems
    • Bodies Can be Triggering
    • Inside Can be Triggering
    • Noticing Can be Triggering
    • Calming or Slowing Down Can be Triggering
    • Paying Attention to the Body Before an Audience Can be Triggering
    • Performance Anxiety Related to All of This Can be Triggering
    • Resistance Not a Useful Concept
  • Dip Your Toe In Provides Needed Information
  • Beware Agendas
    • Beware Informing Clients What the Should Feel or What Mindfulness Will Do
    • Therapist Agendas: Back to How we Teach Mindfulness, and the Cinderblock on the Gas Pedal
    • Many Clients with Complex Trauma Believe that they have Failed Trauma (and are about to Fail EMDR Therapy)
    • Aspirin for a Headache Metaphor

Normalizing Therapist Anxiety

  • The Impulse to Want to Avoid Causing Harm
  • Working with Trauma is Like Working with
  • Confessions about Difficult Sessions
  • Most Basic Training Programs Can’t Train You to Work Effectively with Severely Complex Trauma in EMDR, You Will Need to Learn the Nuances of this On Your Own, But There is an Enormous Amount of Help Out There
  • Normalizing Mistakes and Missteps
  • The Real Risks of Not Doing Trauma Work with Clients
  • We are the Only Professionals on the Planet that Can Do This… Whose Job it is to Do This
  • It’s Like Everything Else… You Learn to Do This by Doing This
  • The Really Good News About EMDR Therapy: It Breaks in a Very Limited Number of Places
  • When Clients Struggle, There is Information in that Struggle
  • You can Dip Your Toe into Every Phase of EMDR Therapy
  • You will Develop More Trust in the Process
  • You will Get Better at Intuiting when the Client is Stuck and Strategically and Effectively Intervening
  • Not Everyone is Prepared to Do EMDR Therapy Right Now: We Can Help them Prepare

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